Although being single has some perks, it also has it’s downfalls. It’s during these times that I have to remind myself that yes, I’m single…but that don’t mean these little gray clouds will always hang over my head because that can always change.
Here’s my short list of the worst things about being single:
- There’s times when I feel extra lonely like at 2 a.m. when I have something on my mind but nobody to talk to about it.
- If you were in a relationship for a long time, it’s hard to get back out there and meet new people. For me (an introvert), it’s not so much that I’m scared of having my heart broke, but I just don’t know how to do it.
- Going right along with the last point, sometimes it’s hard to tell if people are flirting or just being friendly.
- Everybody thinks that since I am single then obviously I should date that guy they know or look on dating sites. Sometimes that makes being single feel like a disease that everybody is trying to cure you of.
- I’m less motivated to go out to places. This happens for 3 reasons. One, I always see happy families with a mom and dad and feel like May is being deprived. Two, it feels lonely to go bowling by yourself or go to eat by yourself. And three, it’s more challenging to handle a toddler all on your own when doing certain things.
- I miss the intimacy of a relationship, and not just the obvious ways. Holding hands and snuggling with a significant other is something you don’t realize is important until you don’t have it anymore. (Granted, there were times in my marriage that I missed this even though I was married simply because it wasn’t there.)
- Knowing that I’m the sole provider and caretaker of my child puts a lot of responsibility on my shoulders. If something would happen that I wasn’t able to do those things, I don’t have a spouse I can count on to help.
- I feel like a burden to others. My parents are a huge part of my life and I depend on them for so much. I know that it causes them stress knowing that I have to count on them for so much babysitting and help with things that need to be done around the house.
- It’s harder for me to trust people and get to know them because I don’t want to expose May to people who may not love her like I do or may leave and break her heart.
I guess the lesson to take from this is that being single is like everything else in life. It has it’s up and downs and it’s all about balancing it out. Enjoy the good things and know that the bad will pass.