This week, my niece officially became a new member of the “Motherhood” by bringing not one, but two precious and beautiful little girls into this world. I was thinking of what advice I would offer her as a new mom and wanted to share it with you too.
- When they sleep, sleep. You’re basically a zombie for the first few months of their life. If the babies are napping, nap too. Your body will thank you and your to-do list will wait.
- Don’t compare your kids to everybody else’s. All babies are different. All babies are unique. What one kid is doing at 6 months may take until 1 year for yours to do. As long as the doctors think they are doing okay, don’t stress over it.
- It’s just a phase. Every little thing that your babies do, whether good or bad, is pretty much just a phase. Milk it for all it’s worth if it’s good. Don’t panic and know that it will soon pass if it’s not.
- Having a sick baby is hard but you’ll both make it through it. Being fussy, running fevers, crying and crying and crying and then vomit everywhere. It’s hard. And it’s okay to be stressed. And it’s okay to worry. But know that it happens to all kids and just remind yourself that in a few days, life will be normal again.
- Ask for advice. Others have done this thing before and may know something you don’t know. Be quick to ask for advice and listen to advice.
- But in the end, don’t feel guilty for following your gut. If everybody says that such and such is the best way to get a baby to sleep but you’re just not feeling it, it’s okay to stick with your own way. If so and so says that you’re baby’s fine and doesn’t need to go to the doctor over a diaper rash but your gut says different then go!
- Take lots of pictures and make lots of memories. I know it’s been said before but it’s true. They do grow up too fast.
- Take extra clothes for you too. Trust me…you don’t want to smell like baby puke all day.
- Know when you need a break. It’s okay to take a shower or spend 30 minutes alone and quite. As long as you can trust your kids to someone else for a few minutes, there’s nothing wrong with that.
- Know that they love you…even when you get frustrated. Kids don’t hold grudges like adults. They are just awesome like that.
I wish all the new moms out there the best!
Hang in there! You will survive!