Ever get an idea in your head and just can’t shake it?
Maybe it’s the idea of a relationship with someone or of something you’d love to buy but it’s a little out of your budget. As long as this dream seems reasonable and achievable, go for it! By no means let a little detour or stumbling block stop you! But sometimes you find that there is detour after detour after stumbling block after stumbling block and it is literally going nowhere, you just keep circling around and find yourself exactly where you started. There’s nowhere left to go with that dream. You’ve reached a dead end, and now it’s time to let it go.
This can be especially hard for me to do in part because I’m a dreamer. And to be honest, I shield my dreams and let them live a lot longer than they should.
What’s that? I can’t afford this thing I’ve had my eye on for the last two months? No problem! I’ll just put back $10 a week and I’ll have enough saved up to buy it in….calculating…275 weeks, carry the one…5 years!
Oh, what else was that? I think about you all the time and can already imagine memories we’re going to make together but you haven’t answered any of my texts in 3 days? Oh well, maybe your phone broke. Two months later…I still haven’t heard from you since I assume your phone broke. I bet you’ve got a new one was wasn’t able to pull my number off of the old one. Maybe I’ll just shoot you a quick text so that you’ll have it again…
That’s pretty much how my brain works. Kinda sad, I know.
Well, I’ve decided that I probably should be open to the idea of killing a few dreams before they get the best of me. How am I going to do this? Not exactly sure at this point but I think this is where I’ll start:
Write a letter to said dream. (But not actually sending it…that would be a little weird. I’ll just publish it on the internet instead!)
Dear $3000 home theater system/Mr. You-know-who-you-are,
I’ve come to the realization that you are a dream. You are merely something that I concocted in my brain with hopes of making you a reality. I have put forth every reasonable effort to make you come true. You’ve failed to do so. As a result of this conclusion being made, I am going to have to let you go.
I hope that you have a happy life becoming someone else’s reality, however, you are no longer considered a candidate for mine.
That may not do away with the dream for good and it may pop into my head from time to time but I feel like it will give me a sense of closure and it will give me permission to move on to the next crazy dream that might actually stand a chance.
Did you miss the first two posts on letting go? Here they are!
Also, next up is Letting Go: Material Things